
For example, have you ever noticed how everyone who dies is said to be in a "better place"? If Jesus says that most people are actually traversing the broad road which leads to destruction, then what is this better place of which people speak (Matthew 7:13-14)? In addressing the topic of death with others, it has been said to me, "Well, so-and-so is now reunited with all of the family and friends who went on before them, so I know they are okay." Really? What if these friends & family are in Hell? Does it soothe their conscious and turn their time in Hell into a great celebration because they are together again with those deceased loved ones? I have seen obituaries so doctored that I couldn't even recognize the person described. Deathnosis.
I am not saying to speak ill of the dead. What is done is done, and there is a judge we all will face after our deaths (Hebrews 9:27). I am saying that we must face the truth about death and the condition of life after death. This reality is not going to change just because we don't want to accept it. No amount of preaching the deceased into Heaven is actually going to get them there if they did not live for Christ. Do not go through life falsely believing that your "good" works or motivations will save you...they won't.
In fact, almost nothing will get people more riled up than to refuse to glorify the dead. They are aghast at the fact that the only thing which matters is whether a person knew Christ and were known by Him (Matthew 7:22-23). It is inconceivable to those in the world (including many professing Christians) that God will reject those who have not given themselves as living sacrifices in obedience to Christ.